Welcome to afitnewyou! Please excuse me for not having posted in a while. I just have been pretty busy with things, and because of that I realized a little more just how easy it is for things in life to get in the way of things that we should be doing. Reasons, excuses do not eat right and / or hit the gym constantly pop up. It can be a struggle to stay motivated, but it is essential that you do. Realizing this myself with writing, it caused me to go back to what I preach, that it is OK to not be "perfect" as long as you are continuing along the path to your goals. As I have said many times, the key is to not allow yourself to stop. Thinking about it even more, it led me to what I wanted to talk about today, this idea that even if we get stopped, that you need to continue on; and if you achieved a certain level, its time to go on to the next. The phrase that summarizes this to me is to "turn the corner." This phrase is used to describe going on to the next level, particularly after a set back. It is sort of like "dusting yourself off." But, I like the visual of turning the corner better for a few reasons, especially because it envisions you in motion.
I grew up in a time when kids went outside everyday to be active. Cell phones and video games weren't around all that much, and you would stay outside until you were called in for dinner. Parents weren't acting like helicopters, and us kids thought we had all of the freedom in the world. The truth of the matter was that we were watched and governed by certain rules. For example, when I was very young, I was allowed to ride my bicycle up and down the street as much as I wanted as long as I didn't cross the street, and I turned around at the corner. And I would do this for a very long time, up and down the block, always turning around when I got to the corner. It was a right of passage at a certain age to be able to turn that corner and then be allowed to go around the block all by myself. This ability to literally turn the corner is very much in tune with the metaphorical "turning the corner" phrase. You see, the actual corner was a physical barrier that I was not allowed to cross, but once I was able to turn that corner it opened up a whole new set of experiences. I can ride further so my physical activity increased, and it literally introduced me to a whole new perspective on my small world. These two aspects are developed as well when you "turn the corner" with what you are doing to achieve your fitness goals.
It is common to have set backs along the way to achieve your fitness goals. Injuries can occur, "life happens" and things can get in the way. Sometimes its hard to stay motivated. However, if you get knocked off course a bit it doesn't mean you give up, instead you must shoulder on. Doing so requires you to turn the corner as the phrase is most often intended. It means to leave the past behind and start fresh with a new point of view. Just as I got to see much more of the world when I literally turned the corner, so too will you when you can get past what has been holding you back on your fitness journey and start heading towards your goals again, albeit from a different direction. I've used a good number of cliches already, but as they say, it isn't about the number of times that you have fallen, but the number of times you have gotten up...so turn the corner as the phrase is intended and continue on with your fitness goals.
In a more positive perspective, sometimes it isn't a set backs that requires us to turn the corner, but simply either reaching a plateau or, even more positively, attaining one of your short term goals. As I have said in earlier posts, the past way to achieve your ultimate plan is to have short terms goals leading up to your larger one. Each accomplishment along the way is beneficial for so many reasons. When you meet one, take it as reaching the end of the block, that street corner, with the ability to turn the corner and head in the next direction. In this positive take, it isn't that you need a new direction because of a previous stumble, rather, it is turning the corner because you reached one end, and are ready to head to the next! It is like when I was allowed to not only turn the corner, but now go around the entire block; I reached the end of one block, and then by turning the corner a few more times, I made it to my ultimate goal of going around the entire block. When you achieve one of your short term goals it doesn't mean you should just stop there, and it certainly doesn't mean that you turn around in the directions from which you just came. Just the opposite, you need to continue on your path, just tackling that next part of the journey.
When you turn the corner you get both new opportunities and a fresh perspective. In its traditional sense, turning the corner means to pick yourself up after a set back. This is relevant to achieving your fitness goals in that if you had something that has been holding you back, now is the opportunity to turn the corner and start again. Turning the corner also gives you a fresh new view and a chance at opportunities that maybe weren't there initially. Again, in terms of your fitness goals, turning the corner relates to striving for that next step towards your ultimate goal. By turning the corner you are giving yourself a fresh outlook to reaching a fit new you!
March 27, 2018
February 26, 2018
Work Hard Play Hard
Welcome to afitnewyou! Heading into this first Monday that follows a week long vacation stirs up some interesting feelings. Where most times, most people, would not be too fond of getting back to the grind on a typical Monday morning, I think getting back to a routine is welcomed following a long break. In fact, I often find it easier to start up for the week after a vacation than beginning again after a normal weekend. I believe there are two reasons for this; one is due to the physical rest taken, and the second is the mental break that allows us to refocus. Think about how you feel, after a long vacation...yes, you might prefer to stay on a warm, sandy beach that you might have visited, but think about how you perform when you actually get back to work. That rest usually allows you to refocus and pick up your production. The same principle of performing better after getting some rest also applies to your fitness goals. When you get some needed rest, like taking a week off of the gym because you are on vacation, you will be reinvigorated and will perform better when you get back to it. It is for this reason that I tell people to work hard and play hard, meaning bust your butt in the gym, but when you are allotted some time for a physical break from it, enjoy that to its fullest as well. You don't have to keep at it every single day of the year. Taking some time off will actually benefit you in the long run.
Why do you take a vacation? A very common answer is to take a break from the routine and allow your "batteries to recharge." Vacations are often thought as being needed for that recovery to occur. The same is true with vacations from your fitness goals, especially in terms of getting to the gym. I know plenty of people who choose a hotel for their stay by whether or not it has a gym and the quality of it. While this is admirable, I think it unnecessary and I tell people that I purposely do not even walk past a gym while I am on vacation. I explain that it is just as important to allow your muscles to rest and relax from time to time as its important to break away from your regular routine. When it comes to weight training, your muscles develop through a process of "tear and repair." While training, you create micro tears in the muscle tissue that repairs with adequate recovery time. Typically, it is referred to not train the same muscle group within a 48 hour period; this is to allow for the repair process to take place. Well, if you are hitting it hard at the gym on a regular basis, taking a short break isn't going to harm you, it will actually allow more healing to occur. I personally experience a stronger feeling at the gym after a week of rest. Part of that is mental, but most of it is physical. Of course the break shouldn't be too long, but if it is an extended break of a week or two after regularly putting the time in for months, it will be beneficial. It is the concept of work hard, play hard.
As I just mentioned, a break from working on your fitness goals isn't just beneficial from a physical perspective, but for a mental refresher as well. I think a lot of what we have to do to achieve our fitness goals are needs more so than they are wants. For example, you may want to lose 10 pounds of fat, but to do so, you will need to get to the gym regularly and maintain a healthy diet. But, to meet those needs, we may have to do things that we typically don't want to do. In a perfect world the foods that we need to eat would be the ones we want to eat, but we all know that isn't how it always is in reality. Similarly, I hope you find physical activity that you enjoy doing as much as you know it is needed, but that isn't always the case. But if you are someone that exercises regularly, and then you are forced to take a break for some reason, whether it be due to an injury, a vacation or some other reason, you usually become amped up to hit the gym again. Following a recent temporary closing of the gym that I train at because they were undergoing renovations, which had kept me from training for a few days, I was both physically rested and pumped to hit the weights again when they reopened. Not only did I feel physically good, but I was excited for my workout when I walked into the facility as opposed to feeling like I "HAD" to work out. Again, if the break isn't so long that you forget where the gym is located, you may be more motivated and excited to go following a few more days off than you regularly take.
While I cannot fully defend this idea of work hard play hard when it comes to nutritional goals, as I think some people may take this idea to an unhealthy level of binge and purge, and I feel that its easier to maintain healthy eating habits by making it a priority of your lifestyle, there is still some analogy with these fitness goals as well. When it comes to maintaining a healthy diet, I think a big component of it is the concept of "everything in moderation." I truly believe it is ok to have a cheeseburger from time to time as long as its not a regular food choice. Furthermore, I think it is easier to avoid the foods you would "want" to eat by being able to enjoy them from time to time, as opposed to treating them as a poison that you should never touch. I can't say it enough, that there of course needs to be a healthy balance of what is part of your regular diet and what is enjoyed from time to time. However, I see nothing wrong with having some cake on your birthday, eating a whole bunch more than you normally would on a feast holiday like Thanksgiving, and enjoying some decadent menu items while on vacation IF you are normally maintaining a healthy diet. As long as it is the exception and not the rule, its plenty fine to enjoy foods that you want to eat.
There is a reason why the regular day-to-day is known as "the grind." It can be hard, taxing and arduous. And regiments that are needed for you to achieve your fitness goals are considered routines. There is certainly a difference between work and play. While I hope everyone has a job that they do enjoy, it shouldn't be too far of a reach that most of us would rather be at play than at work. And I would bet that most of us look forward to a vacation that is booked as opposed to a meeting that is scheduled. There is no reason why you shouldn't fully enjoy your time to play. Vacations give us both the physical and mental breaks that allow us to unwind, decompress, and perform better when we are "back at it." So, when you have an opportunity to kick your feet up, do so with your fitness routines as well. Be guilt free if you have been working your tail off and now have a few days to take a break. Your body and mind will be just as refreshed and ready to start again as the vacation makes you for your job. Working hard, and playing hard is the refreshing way to reach a fit new you!
Why do you take a vacation? A very common answer is to take a break from the routine and allow your "batteries to recharge." Vacations are often thought as being needed for that recovery to occur. The same is true with vacations from your fitness goals, especially in terms of getting to the gym. I know plenty of people who choose a hotel for their stay by whether or not it has a gym and the quality of it. While this is admirable, I think it unnecessary and I tell people that I purposely do not even walk past a gym while I am on vacation. I explain that it is just as important to allow your muscles to rest and relax from time to time as its important to break away from your regular routine. When it comes to weight training, your muscles develop through a process of "tear and repair." While training, you create micro tears in the muscle tissue that repairs with adequate recovery time. Typically, it is referred to not train the same muscle group within a 48 hour period; this is to allow for the repair process to take place. Well, if you are hitting it hard at the gym on a regular basis, taking a short break isn't going to harm you, it will actually allow more healing to occur. I personally experience a stronger feeling at the gym after a week of rest. Part of that is mental, but most of it is physical. Of course the break shouldn't be too long, but if it is an extended break of a week or two after regularly putting the time in for months, it will be beneficial. It is the concept of work hard, play hard.
As I just mentioned, a break from working on your fitness goals isn't just beneficial from a physical perspective, but for a mental refresher as well. I think a lot of what we have to do to achieve our fitness goals are needs more so than they are wants. For example, you may want to lose 10 pounds of fat, but to do so, you will need to get to the gym regularly and maintain a healthy diet. But, to meet those needs, we may have to do things that we typically don't want to do. In a perfect world the foods that we need to eat would be the ones we want to eat, but we all know that isn't how it always is in reality. Similarly, I hope you find physical activity that you enjoy doing as much as you know it is needed, but that isn't always the case. But if you are someone that exercises regularly, and then you are forced to take a break for some reason, whether it be due to an injury, a vacation or some other reason, you usually become amped up to hit the gym again. Following a recent temporary closing of the gym that I train at because they were undergoing renovations, which had kept me from training for a few days, I was both physically rested and pumped to hit the weights again when they reopened. Not only did I feel physically good, but I was excited for my workout when I walked into the facility as opposed to feeling like I "HAD" to work out. Again, if the break isn't so long that you forget where the gym is located, you may be more motivated and excited to go following a few more days off than you regularly take.
While I cannot fully defend this idea of work hard play hard when it comes to nutritional goals, as I think some people may take this idea to an unhealthy level of binge and purge, and I feel that its easier to maintain healthy eating habits by making it a priority of your lifestyle, there is still some analogy with these fitness goals as well. When it comes to maintaining a healthy diet, I think a big component of it is the concept of "everything in moderation." I truly believe it is ok to have a cheeseburger from time to time as long as its not a regular food choice. Furthermore, I think it is easier to avoid the foods you would "want" to eat by being able to enjoy them from time to time, as opposed to treating them as a poison that you should never touch. I can't say it enough, that there of course needs to be a healthy balance of what is part of your regular diet and what is enjoyed from time to time. However, I see nothing wrong with having some cake on your birthday, eating a whole bunch more than you normally would on a feast holiday like Thanksgiving, and enjoying some decadent menu items while on vacation IF you are normally maintaining a healthy diet. As long as it is the exception and not the rule, its plenty fine to enjoy foods that you want to eat.
There is a reason why the regular day-to-day is known as "the grind." It can be hard, taxing and arduous. And regiments that are needed for you to achieve your fitness goals are considered routines. There is certainly a difference between work and play. While I hope everyone has a job that they do enjoy, it shouldn't be too far of a reach that most of us would rather be at play than at work. And I would bet that most of us look forward to a vacation that is booked as opposed to a meeting that is scheduled. There is no reason why you shouldn't fully enjoy your time to play. Vacations give us both the physical and mental breaks that allow us to unwind, decompress, and perform better when we are "back at it." So, when you have an opportunity to kick your feet up, do so with your fitness routines as well. Be guilt free if you have been working your tail off and now have a few days to take a break. Your body and mind will be just as refreshed and ready to start again as the vacation makes you for your job. Working hard, and playing hard is the refreshing way to reach a fit new you!
February 12, 2018
Time to Reassess
Welcome to afitnewyou! We are through January and now almost halfway into February, so I will ask again as I have been doing each post of 2018...how are you doing with your New Year's resolutions? I am willing to bet that not even a month and a half into the new year many of you have already long forgotten them. But as I have been saying since my first post of the year, that is OK, it is simply the time now to reassess what you have been trying to do, what has come up along the way, and most importantly, what can be done to still get you there in the long term. Anyone who has made a resolution made for the new YEAR had done so not just for the new month, so there is a heck of a lot of time left to achieve your goals. And if you need a little extra motivation to start again, just as you had on Jan. 1st, its the start of the Chinese New Year this Friday on Feb. 16th. So lets reassess where you want to be and how to get there.
One of the first places that had I learned about the importance of reflection and assessment was during my first career, outside of the fitness industry, as an environmental scientist for a consultant company. Our biggest clients were major oil companies that operate gas stations. At their sites, we would have to do underground investigations in order to determine if there was any contamination occurring, and when there was, just how far it had spread. To do this, we would have to take soil and water samples from beneath the ground, which required the use of drilling from the surface. Unfortunately, due to not being able to see exactly what was below ground, every so often as the drill rig was operated, something would be "hit" and marred by the machinery. This would sometimes lead to further contamination, damages that required costly repairs, and / or in a worst case scenario physical injury. After one of these mishaps, there would be a big meeting with all involved plus company management and the client's response team. The purpose of the meeting would be to discuss what went wrong, and more importantly what could be done to prevent the accident from occurring in the future. Although this is a completely different field, the same reassessment of what had gone wrong, and how things could be improved applies to fitness. If something unforeseen has arisen, just as hitting something below ground that could not be seen while drilling, a road block keeping you from reaching your fitness goals needs to be reevaluated to see how you can improve upon the process.
The first step of reassessing where you are is to look back at what you initially identified as your goals. If you haven't kept up with your goals and/or you have had a hard time doing so you need to reassess whether or not your goals were/are realistic. For example if at the start of the year you had joined a gym and had a goal of getting there everyday, but you haven't been able to get there that much or at all, that might have been setting the bar too high, especially if you weren't going to the gym at all prior to joining. Reassessing the situation would have you step back and realize that going from nothing to everything all at once was unrealistic. The second step of the reassessment would be for you to ask yourself how do you realistically get to your ultimate goal of getting to the gym regularly. In this example, one way this could be done is by making your goal to get to the gym simply one or two days a week for the remainder of the winter. Then when the spring arrives, up to two to three days a week; summertime three to four, and so forth so that by the end of the year you are going regularly. Although we cannot achieve the impossible, we can get ourselves to the next level and use that as a stepping stone to the one after that.
The same could be said for nutritional and dietary goals. If you had a particular goal that you were trying to reach and feel like you already have met your match, take a step back and reevaluate the situation. Maybe you had a goal of losing a certain amount of body fat that you numbered in pounds and instead of losing you have gained. It is OK, we aren't even a full two months into the year, there is still time to reassess what you are doing and what you need to do better. If you were planning on changing how you eat in order to meet this goal, ask yourself what have you been doing and what you could do better. Have you changed what you are putting in your grocery cart? Could you do that better? One suggestion I would have is to use an online shopping service like Peapod offered by Stop and Shop. By shopping online for your groceries, you all but eliminate the temptation of impulse buys of items that will not help you reach your goals. Through reassessing what has and is taking place, you create the opportunity to make a corrective change. There is always multiple ways to solve a problem, during the reassessment process, find out what will work best for you now, and then build off of that for future gains.
The year is still young, and again, as of today Chinese New Year hasn't even arrived yet. If you have had a hard time meeting your fitness goals, you need to realize that you have plenty of time to get back on track as long as you reassess what has taken place. By asking yourself whether your goals were realistic, and are you doing what you need to in order to get there, you can identify any problems that are keeping you from getting there. This reflective process will allow you to make the changes needed to get back on track and achieve them in the long run. Do not feel defeated, but like a football team losing at half time, go back into the locker room and ask how you can change your approach. Reassessing your fitness goals and how you are going to achieve them is a corrective way to reach a fit new you!
One of the first places that had I learned about the importance of reflection and assessment was during my first career, outside of the fitness industry, as an environmental scientist for a consultant company. Our biggest clients were major oil companies that operate gas stations. At their sites, we would have to do underground investigations in order to determine if there was any contamination occurring, and when there was, just how far it had spread. To do this, we would have to take soil and water samples from beneath the ground, which required the use of drilling from the surface. Unfortunately, due to not being able to see exactly what was below ground, every so often as the drill rig was operated, something would be "hit" and marred by the machinery. This would sometimes lead to further contamination, damages that required costly repairs, and / or in a worst case scenario physical injury. After one of these mishaps, there would be a big meeting with all involved plus company management and the client's response team. The purpose of the meeting would be to discuss what went wrong, and more importantly what could be done to prevent the accident from occurring in the future. Although this is a completely different field, the same reassessment of what had gone wrong, and how things could be improved applies to fitness. If something unforeseen has arisen, just as hitting something below ground that could not be seen while drilling, a road block keeping you from reaching your fitness goals needs to be reevaluated to see how you can improve upon the process.
The first step of reassessing where you are is to look back at what you initially identified as your goals. If you haven't kept up with your goals and/or you have had a hard time doing so you need to reassess whether or not your goals were/are realistic. For example if at the start of the year you had joined a gym and had a goal of getting there everyday, but you haven't been able to get there that much or at all, that might have been setting the bar too high, especially if you weren't going to the gym at all prior to joining. Reassessing the situation would have you step back and realize that going from nothing to everything all at once was unrealistic. The second step of the reassessment would be for you to ask yourself how do you realistically get to your ultimate goal of getting to the gym regularly. In this example, one way this could be done is by making your goal to get to the gym simply one or two days a week for the remainder of the winter. Then when the spring arrives, up to two to three days a week; summertime three to four, and so forth so that by the end of the year you are going regularly. Although we cannot achieve the impossible, we can get ourselves to the next level and use that as a stepping stone to the one after that.
The same could be said for nutritional and dietary goals. If you had a particular goal that you were trying to reach and feel like you already have met your match, take a step back and reevaluate the situation. Maybe you had a goal of losing a certain amount of body fat that you numbered in pounds and instead of losing you have gained. It is OK, we aren't even a full two months into the year, there is still time to reassess what you are doing and what you need to do better. If you were planning on changing how you eat in order to meet this goal, ask yourself what have you been doing and what you could do better. Have you changed what you are putting in your grocery cart? Could you do that better? One suggestion I would have is to use an online shopping service like Peapod offered by Stop and Shop. By shopping online for your groceries, you all but eliminate the temptation of impulse buys of items that will not help you reach your goals. Through reassessing what has and is taking place, you create the opportunity to make a corrective change. There is always multiple ways to solve a problem, during the reassessment process, find out what will work best for you now, and then build off of that for future gains.
The year is still young, and again, as of today Chinese New Year hasn't even arrived yet. If you have had a hard time meeting your fitness goals, you need to realize that you have plenty of time to get back on track as long as you reassess what has taken place. By asking yourself whether your goals were realistic, and are you doing what you need to in order to get there, you can identify any problems that are keeping you from getting there. This reflective process will allow you to make the changes needed to get back on track and achieve them in the long run. Do not feel defeated, but like a football team losing at half time, go back into the locker room and ask how you can change your approach. Reassessing your fitness goals and how you are going to achieve them is a corrective way to reach a fit new you!
January 30, 2018
The Past No Longer Exists
Welcome to afitnewyou! New Year's Eve can be looked at as a celebration of the old year ending, the new year starting, or a combination of the two. But no matter how you look at it, January 1st is technically the start of a new year. This is the reason that so many people start the year off by making resolutions...due to the fact that they have a fresh start. When resolutions are made, the goals that are set typically revolve around things that one hopes to improve upon, especially regarding ones that involve bettering one's state of fitness. As I have been saying for the last few weeks, these goals are usually set with the best intentions. But, for so many people, within a short time, even by now for many, the resolutions are no longer maintained. And if people feel a sense of failure with this, there is usually little hope that they will start back up again even though each day is a brand new day to start anew. In quite an unfortunate way, a large number of people who have "fallen off" of their fitness resolutions will not attempt them again until the next new year! I'm here today to remind everyone that there is still plenty of the new year left. And, as I just mentioned, each new day, regardless of the date on the calendar, is an opportunity to start fresh, just as January 1st was.
According to Buddhist teaching, Buddha had said “The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. There's only one moment for you to live, and that is the present moment” The point of this saying is to remind us that we shouldn't dwell on the past, nor worry about the future but instead live for today. This does not mean that we should indulge in a piece of cheesecake simply to enjoy the day, rather it means that we shouldn't let the something in the past, such as a failure, keep us from doing something better today. Furthermore, in terms of the future, it simply means to not stress about it, but it IS still to be considered. How this teaching applies to your health and fitness is in the fact that there may have been things that have come up in the past that have kept you from reaching your fitness goals, but they should not keep your from pursuing them today. It could have been something simple like having too much to eat and/or drink over the weekend, or a little more involved such as enrolling in a gym membership but then never going more than once, twice or a few times. Just because you have had a set back in the past does not mean you cannot have success in the future.
The future is not yet here... This is meant to be encouraging! Rather than worrying about the future, in terms of stressing over reaching your fitness goals such as how many pounds of fat you would like to lose, you should realize that you have time to get there...you don't have to be at that healthier state today. Furthermore, you don't need to be down on yourself for not being as healthy today as you are setting out to be. The concept of Karma in the Buddhist tradition is that even though the future isn't here yet, we can do things today to make for an easier, better and happier tomorrow. The relevance to fitness is that the time you spend in the gym today on the treadmill or pushing the weights, or making healthy food choices at each and every meal is good Karma for your body. By making the healthy choices today, you will set yourself on the path to have that healthier, fitter new you. This was emphasized in a class I took a few years ago led by renowned fitness instructor Lawrence Biscontini; in his class he used the mantra "Buddha says, if it's going to be, it's up to me, I control my destiny." And you are in control, so do something today that your future self will thank you for!
With the past already being gone, and the future not yet here, you can only work with the present moment. While it certainly helps to anticipate the future in order to reach your fitness goals, for example by packing your gym bag in the morning so you can hit the gym directly after work and / or shopping for only healthy food items at the start of the week to give you good choices for meals throughout the week, you can still take away some of the stress of reaching your goals by focusing on what you can do today. Throughout the day, take a step back, pause, breathe and then ask yourself what you can do in the moment to be healthier. If you focus on the present moment, you can make the smallest changes that will benefit your health. Maybe you can correct your posture while sitting at your desk. Or maybe you actually get up from your chair and you do a set of body weight squats. As you sit for a meal, look at your plate so before you start eating you can see if there are any changes you can make right there that will be more rewarding and less regretful. If you are at the gym would it be too much to do one more set while you are already there? Heck, even just pausing in the present to simply breathe can be invigorating in itself!
It is a new year, and we can anticipate the days, weeks and months ahead of us. But remember, each and every one of those new days is just that...a new day to start fresh and new. Do not let past failures hold you back from becoming the healthier person you want to be. You can do something today that will push you past those set backs. And don't let the days ahead and your goal as a whole to intimidate you by letting it feel overwhelming...you have today and each and every day to work towards reaching your goal. If you do something today, in the present moment, to better your life and improve your health you are creating positive fitness Karma for yourself. String enough positive present moments together and you will eventually reach the future that you are shooting for. Being healthy in the present moment is the mindful way to reach a fit new you!
According to Buddhist teaching, Buddha had said “The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. There's only one moment for you to live, and that is the present moment” The point of this saying is to remind us that we shouldn't dwell on the past, nor worry about the future but instead live for today. This does not mean that we should indulge in a piece of cheesecake simply to enjoy the day, rather it means that we shouldn't let the something in the past, such as a failure, keep us from doing something better today. Furthermore, in terms of the future, it simply means to not stress about it, but it IS still to be considered. How this teaching applies to your health and fitness is in the fact that there may have been things that have come up in the past that have kept you from reaching your fitness goals, but they should not keep your from pursuing them today. It could have been something simple like having too much to eat and/or drink over the weekend, or a little more involved such as enrolling in a gym membership but then never going more than once, twice or a few times. Just because you have had a set back in the past does not mean you cannot have success in the future.
The future is not yet here... This is meant to be encouraging! Rather than worrying about the future, in terms of stressing over reaching your fitness goals such as how many pounds of fat you would like to lose, you should realize that you have time to get there...you don't have to be at that healthier state today. Furthermore, you don't need to be down on yourself for not being as healthy today as you are setting out to be. The concept of Karma in the Buddhist tradition is that even though the future isn't here yet, we can do things today to make for an easier, better and happier tomorrow. The relevance to fitness is that the time you spend in the gym today on the treadmill or pushing the weights, or making healthy food choices at each and every meal is good Karma for your body. By making the healthy choices today, you will set yourself on the path to have that healthier, fitter new you. This was emphasized in a class I took a few years ago led by renowned fitness instructor Lawrence Biscontini; in his class he used the mantra "Buddha says, if it's going to be, it's up to me, I control my destiny." And you are in control, so do something today that your future self will thank you for!
With the past already being gone, and the future not yet here, you can only work with the present moment. While it certainly helps to anticipate the future in order to reach your fitness goals, for example by packing your gym bag in the morning so you can hit the gym directly after work and / or shopping for only healthy food items at the start of the week to give you good choices for meals throughout the week, you can still take away some of the stress of reaching your goals by focusing on what you can do today. Throughout the day, take a step back, pause, breathe and then ask yourself what you can do in the moment to be healthier. If you focus on the present moment, you can make the smallest changes that will benefit your health. Maybe you can correct your posture while sitting at your desk. Or maybe you actually get up from your chair and you do a set of body weight squats. As you sit for a meal, look at your plate so before you start eating you can see if there are any changes you can make right there that will be more rewarding and less regretful. If you are at the gym would it be too much to do one more set while you are already there? Heck, even just pausing in the present to simply breathe can be invigorating in itself!
It is a new year, and we can anticipate the days, weeks and months ahead of us. But remember, each and every one of those new days is just that...a new day to start fresh and new. Do not let past failures hold you back from becoming the healthier person you want to be. You can do something today that will push you past those set backs. And don't let the days ahead and your goal as a whole to intimidate you by letting it feel overwhelming...you have today and each and every day to work towards reaching your goal. If you do something today, in the present moment, to better your life and improve your health you are creating positive fitness Karma for yourself. String enough positive present moments together and you will eventually reach the future that you are shooting for. Being healthy in the present moment is the mindful way to reach a fit new you!
January 22, 2018
Accountability
Welcome to afitnewyou! If you are an avid gym goer, you probably have noticed that there are busier and slower times of the year, when the gym becomes more or less crowded. I like to call these the seasons of the gym. For example, some of the busier times are the beginning of January when everyone is ready to start with their resolutions and overcome their holiday eating, and the late spring when people are gearing up for donning summer clothes. Similarly, there are the slower seasons, such as the end of January when people have already fallen off of their resolutions, and middle of summer when people are more interested in enjoying the weather than maintaining the body that they had worked so hard for. Another set of seasons I notice different gym seasons revolve around the beginning and endings of college breaks. Gyms tend to get crazy crowded in the middle of December and May when colleges let out. And where I know there are many gym clients who do not like this sudden influx of additional people on machines, I have a bit more compassion for these students who had just finished finals and have handed in term papers. I was in college long enough to know how much those breaks were needed, and I also remember how much I wasn't a fan of doing term papers. In fact, I don't think many people are fans of doing term papers. But why then do we do them? We do them because we have and/or had to. The semester's grade was dependent upon it. That fact is what held you accountable for doing it. Even when I teach my Jr. high science students, I know that they are much more likely to study when they are preparing for a test, as opposed to just because it would be beneficial to them. Think about any assignment you had to do for school...there were probably some you enjoyed more than others, but I would bet that a great deal of them were done only because you had to. And if you didn't, your grade would suffer; that is because you were held accountable for it. In the same way, you would be much more likely to exercise and/or keep up with a healthy meal plan if you had some form of accountability for doing so. I'd like to make a few suggestions here on how to do that, because the more accountable you are for something, the more compliant you will be. Whether you do something because you want to, or because you have to, doing it is what will get you achieving your goals.
I pride myself on the experience and education that I have to offer my clients who personal train with me. Heck, I even think my winning personality has a bit to do with my client retention. But I would be lying if I said I believed that some of the appointments that my clients keep weren't simply because they "had" to. In fact, sometimes I even express that one of the best aspects of having a personal trainer is simply so that you have an appointment that you need to keep; in other words, an appointment that you will be held accountable for. Again, I know that I provide my clients with much more than just an appointment time, however having that appointment time certainly creates at least one more need for that person to get to the gym. Most personal trainers also have some form of cancellation policy, as do many other professionals who work on appointment times. But with a personal trainer, that policy isn't just a good business practice, it is also creates a requirement on the client, a sense of accountability, to get to the gym. So one way to construct instant accountability for maintaining an exercise routine is by scheduling sessions with a personal trainer. Not only do you get all of the proper training techniques offered from that trainer, but you also now have a need to get to the gym.
Once in the gym, a technique that a personal trainer may use to keep you accountable is through the use of a training journal, or some other means of record keeping. By keeping track of what you need to do, have done, or plan to do, it puts down in writing what you are capable of. I have one particular client who uses the phrase "The book don't lie!" He and I use this phrase when I tell him what weight he needs to use, and the number of repetitions that he needs to complete. This sets up a "black and white" outline for what he needs to do while in the gym. In the same way, nutritionists do this as well when they have their clients use food logs/journals. A food journal can provide a list of the healthy foods and proper portion sizes that you need in order to meet your nutritional goals. Furthermore, you can use those recommendations to make a shopping list with before you go to the store. The goal would be to only purchase what you NEED and not what you want. That in itself is a form of accountability. But the food journal also does much more. If you are recording what you are eating, and being honest about it, it is like you are submitting your homework to an instructor when you meet with your nutritionist. If there is something in that "assignment" that would get you a "poor grade" you certainly would make some changes. Keeping a journal, whether for exercise or nutritional goals, will help you both set up what you need to do, and then give you a measure to assess what you have done against.
Another way to establish accountability for your fitness goals is by making your goals public. This might seem intimidating and may not be for everyone, but by letting others know what you are looking to accomplish, you will establish those who can check in on you. Obviously the more public you make your goals, the more people there are to give you feedback. But you can just as effectively create accountability by sharing your goals with only one or a few trusted friends, family members and/or partners. Politicians are often judged by whether or not they have fulfilled their campaign promises. They are held accountable by their constituents. In a much more private way, individuals in recovery programs communicate their actions with a sponsor. In both cases, accountability is set up where one person sets forth their goals to at least one other person, and then those other people are always there to help make sure that the individual stays on track to meet their goals. Your health and fitness should be taken just as seriously, and meeting your goals becomes much easier if you have others holding you accountable for staying on track. To do this, you can either post your goals on a social media site that you use so others can ask/see how you are progressing. Or, you can have a friend be a fitness sponsor...someone you share your goals with that you can check in with to make sure you are doing all you can to meet them.
There are lot of different things that are the motivation for people to get something done. Valuing your health and wanting to stay fit should be enough motivation to stay active and eat healthy. But, we know that isn't always true all of the time for most of us. So, we need to come up with another way to stay motivated, or at least have some reason to eat right and exercise. Finding a way to be accountable for your actions could be that factor. For most of us, there is a much greater chance that we will do something, even things that we aren't too fond of like doing homework assignments, if we know we will be held accountable for doing so. We might not have the incentive of getting a particular grade on a report card, but by being accountable to something or someone will give you the incentive to keep up with your goals. Being accountable for what you do, is a motivating way to be a fit new you!
I pride myself on the experience and education that I have to offer my clients who personal train with me. Heck, I even think my winning personality has a bit to do with my client retention. But I would be lying if I said I believed that some of the appointments that my clients keep weren't simply because they "had" to. In fact, sometimes I even express that one of the best aspects of having a personal trainer is simply so that you have an appointment that you need to keep; in other words, an appointment that you will be held accountable for. Again, I know that I provide my clients with much more than just an appointment time, however having that appointment time certainly creates at least one more need for that person to get to the gym. Most personal trainers also have some form of cancellation policy, as do many other professionals who work on appointment times. But with a personal trainer, that policy isn't just a good business practice, it is also creates a requirement on the client, a sense of accountability, to get to the gym. So one way to construct instant accountability for maintaining an exercise routine is by scheduling sessions with a personal trainer. Not only do you get all of the proper training techniques offered from that trainer, but you also now have a need to get to the gym.
Once in the gym, a technique that a personal trainer may use to keep you accountable is through the use of a training journal, or some other means of record keeping. By keeping track of what you need to do, have done, or plan to do, it puts down in writing what you are capable of. I have one particular client who uses the phrase "The book don't lie!" He and I use this phrase when I tell him what weight he needs to use, and the number of repetitions that he needs to complete. This sets up a "black and white" outline for what he needs to do while in the gym. In the same way, nutritionists do this as well when they have their clients use food logs/journals. A food journal can provide a list of the healthy foods and proper portion sizes that you need in order to meet your nutritional goals. Furthermore, you can use those recommendations to make a shopping list with before you go to the store. The goal would be to only purchase what you NEED and not what you want. That in itself is a form of accountability. But the food journal also does much more. If you are recording what you are eating, and being honest about it, it is like you are submitting your homework to an instructor when you meet with your nutritionist. If there is something in that "assignment" that would get you a "poor grade" you certainly would make some changes. Keeping a journal, whether for exercise or nutritional goals, will help you both set up what you need to do, and then give you a measure to assess what you have done against.
Another way to establish accountability for your fitness goals is by making your goals public. This might seem intimidating and may not be for everyone, but by letting others know what you are looking to accomplish, you will establish those who can check in on you. Obviously the more public you make your goals, the more people there are to give you feedback. But you can just as effectively create accountability by sharing your goals with only one or a few trusted friends, family members and/or partners. Politicians are often judged by whether or not they have fulfilled their campaign promises. They are held accountable by their constituents. In a much more private way, individuals in recovery programs communicate their actions with a sponsor. In both cases, accountability is set up where one person sets forth their goals to at least one other person, and then those other people are always there to help make sure that the individual stays on track to meet their goals. Your health and fitness should be taken just as seriously, and meeting your goals becomes much easier if you have others holding you accountable for staying on track. To do this, you can either post your goals on a social media site that you use so others can ask/see how you are progressing. Or, you can have a friend be a fitness sponsor...someone you share your goals with that you can check in with to make sure you are doing all you can to meet them.
There are lot of different things that are the motivation for people to get something done. Valuing your health and wanting to stay fit should be enough motivation to stay active and eat healthy. But, we know that isn't always true all of the time for most of us. So, we need to come up with another way to stay motivated, or at least have some reason to eat right and exercise. Finding a way to be accountable for your actions could be that factor. For most of us, there is a much greater chance that we will do something, even things that we aren't too fond of like doing homework assignments, if we know we will be held accountable for doing so. We might not have the incentive of getting a particular grade on a report card, but by being accountable to something or someone will give you the incentive to keep up with your goals. Being accountable for what you do, is a motivating way to be a fit new you!
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